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Say 'no' to blind dates and save a headache
By Zhao Yanrong (China Daily)
Updated: 2009-12-24 13:28
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Only two weeks after my 26th birthday, my dear mother called me at 11:30 pm and asked me to go for a blind date. "This 30-year-old man has a great family background. He has a master's degree and has three apartments in Beijing." Last time I saw my mom so excited at such a late night was when I got an offer from the best university in Australia.
I love meeting people and making friends. But once the meeting turns into a date with marriage on the horizon, I get a little scared.
What should I go on dates for?
METRO reported a ridiculous event two days ago, in which single billionaires in Beijing took part in a matchmaking party with an admission fee of 100,000 yuan. Those rich bachelors said the hardest task for them is to find the true love, while they were pricing their love. I think this is pathetic, because love should be priceless.
If I went to meet the man without knowing the guy's character or personality but only that he has a rich family, I would feel that I am just selling myself for a price. A master's degree, three apartments and a good family background can never be a reason for marriage, not even a date.
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Technically yes. But my parents are quite satisfied with the potential son-in-law. If I said no, I will embarrass them, because they need to keep their friendship with the man's parents. If the man said no, they will lose their face in front of their friends because their daughter is not attractive enough.
If I want to be a good daughter, I have to accept the arrangement.
Should I be the person who decide who and when to date?
This is only the second month after starting my first job. I love my work and enjoy doing it, but going to meet some guys is totally out of my agenda for the first year of my career.
"Mom, before having a clear thought on what I want, I am not going to mess up anyone else's life."
