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Are men threatened by successful women?

By Meng Jing (China Daily)
Updated: 2010-01-26 09:17

In Chinese folklore, girls born in Tiger years seem to be cursed. They bring bad luck upon themselves, to their families and even to their husbands' families.

I, as a "tiger girl", am a little bit offended by this. Though I don't believe the old sayings, I could not stop wondering why the Chinese ancestors had such hateful thoughts for tiger girls thousands of years ago. Then, I read a theory about "surplus women", referring to those who were approaching their 30s.

In the theory, all men and women are classified into four categories: A, B, C and D from the elite class to the bottom class. And it works like this: A class men marry B class women, B class men stay with C class women, then C class men choose D class women.

In the end, A class women can either end up alone or go out with D class men. If they don't want to compromise themselves with D class men, they become "surplus women".

It turns out that the main reason "surplus women" become "surplus" is they are too successful.

If the theory is true, all the years of study and hard work may just put a lot of women on an express train to the hell.

I couldn't help wondering why men don't like A class women until my friend told me her recent experience of a blind date. In the date, my well-educated, well-paid friend successfully scared the man away. Looking at the brand-name logos all over my friend's body, the man only asked one question: "Do you think I'm good enough for you?"

Most of my circle of friends and acquaintances: ambitious, successful and talented women encounter the same problem. They are equal, if not superior to, most of the men in their lives. Facing the achievements made by those women, most men will assume that they have a very high standard for their partners and they must be picky.

The theory is just like the tale of tiger girls. Girls who are born in the year are believed to be fierce, wild and able to control everything - even their husbands.

It is high time that modern men realized successful women are still women.